Tuesday, February 2, 2010

This and That and Virtual Friends

Circle of FriendsImage by catbagan via Flickr

I am sick. I have a awfully sore throat and I fell weak and shaky. I think that the past couple of weeks I lived on pure andrenaline and now that the levels of it are low, all the viruses and illneses are on me...So I went out - I had to take Maya out for a walk, she's so restless - and bought myself some vitamins and ginko biloba, because my brain doesn't function the way it should. An example: today I forgot my key in the mail box and thank God a nice neighbour took it and called me...You see?
Maya is well and we're still waiting, for test results and for other tests...This morning, for breakfast, she asked for "dots". I didn't understand what did she want, so I took her to the fridge and asked her to show me. It was the dish that I cooked yesterday, some sort of tiny round pasta in three colours that she loved. So, she had lunch for breakfast, and then I gave her what was supposed to be her breakfast at lunch. Speaking of being confused...But as long as she enjoyed it, I didn't really care.
In one of my previous posts, my friend Simha said something like "I hope you have a community there, in Ashdod, with friends who are helping you out during your rough patch". Well, the truth is, I don't have. I am alone here, in Israel, very much alone. One of the reasons I started writing this blog was to find a way of coping with this loneliness. My family is living far away, in Romania, Germany and England...my best friend from high school and junior high is in Romania, another good friend is in Canada...and I'm here, with my family. My husband's parents are dead, he is an only son and he has relatives in Romania and Hungary. Here in Israel he has two cousins, but they live in the north and have enough problems of their own. Maya's godmother Nora is the only friend I have here, in Israel. But she is working in Tel Aviv and by the time she's back in town she is very tired (she is a cancer survivor and she has to take care of herself more than others) so we meet sometimes during week-ends...I have another good friend, Louise, a fellow book lover, but she lives in another city and it is really dificult to find time to meet up. And that is all. My friends are, more or less, "virtual", we don't drink coffees together, don't go out with the kids...There is one more problem here: all the mothers that have children Maya's age are younger than me. Here in Israel people marry young and have kids quickly afterwards. Also, Ashdod's population has a high percent of Russians and usually they keep inside their community. Not to talk about the fact that I am a Christian, and in Israel Christians are the foreign workers and a certain percent of the Arab population. The religious thing doesn't bother me much only when it comes to holidays and traditions, but I can live with that...I love Jewish holidays as much as the Christian ones and we celebrate them all...It is harder to live without friends...It happened a lot of times that I was at home with Maya when she was sick, or I was sick and we didn't have bread or milk or coffee at home and I simply had to wait for the evening, for my husband to come from work because I didn't have anybody to ask this kind of favour...It is sad, really...
Oh, but who cares? I have so many good friends that I've "met" through my blog and Facebook! And thank God for internet and Yahoo Messenger and Skype and international calls and e-mail! I live in a virtual world but that world is chock full of good friends and positive vibes that empower me!

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7 comments:

Geanina Codita said...

Tristă postare, regret să aflu că nu te simţi bine, că prietenii sunt mai mult virtual...

Te asigur de prietenia mea necondiţionată.

Pupici geaninoşi pe năsucul Mayei.

Acting Balanced Mom said...

Hugs from South Carolina... I understand some of your pain having moved away from family and friends, although I have made a lovely community of friends here in SC and hope that you will eventually find some more IRL friends near you. I also wanted to award you your second award in a week - stop by my blog at http://actingbalanced.blogspot.com to check it out

Simcha said...

That's a real shame, but I know it can be hard in the bigger cities to find a community. Where I live, in Mitzpe Yericho, I sometimes feel a bit lonely because there aren't so many English speakers here, and only one that is my age. And those friends that I do have I rarely see. But in times of crisis or just when I need a little help, I know that the people here would be there for me. I know that it's like this in many places in Israel. Have you considered looking around for another place to live where you would be happier? Someplace smaller with more of a sense of community.

Katherine Jenkins said...

All the love to you from Seattle Washington. Whatever you need, please ask and I'll do my best to help out virtually. You can even said me a personal e-mail @ kathyjenkins@hotmail.com. Peace to you my dear friend, Kathy

Please know that people DO care!

StrawberryAnn said...

Its not easy, thats for shure! We moved 2007 to Sweden and I didn´t know anybody here and it took me almost 2 years to find people to hang around with, not realy friends. I left all my wonderful friends behind and miss them allot!
I really know how it feels and its good to have the internet to be social somehow!

Alone in Holy Land said...

Thank you, my friends!
When I said I have a lot of friends that I've met through the internet, I didn't lie. Somehow, I don't think that the term "virtual" apply to any of them, as I feel them all very real and close to my heart.

Sharnanigans said...

I feel the same often, I live in a small town and I have made most of my great friends online!